Newbie, need help with WAW!

[180Man]

Yeah, I'm going back and forth between listen/validate and my buddy's direct/confident approach.

When she met me I was very very confident (honestly, to a fault looking back at it). I didn't give a f--- what anyone else thought, I did crazy things and didn't think twice about it.

But over time I settled down and became much more considerate (to a fault) and my job beat me down at times and I had times of harsh negativity. Not 24/7 of course, but enough to upset her.