If I'm honest, there were red flags that I saw at the time, but I was so in love, I chose to ignore them and hope they never surfaced. I guess they caught up.
I think we all have that. And they always catch up. Always.
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read about MLC and depression, the more I think he may be dealing with both.
While you may be correct on both, don't put too much stock in it. They are fully aware of what they are doing. Fully.
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It made me remember how most of the phone conversations I was having with him that week and the few weeks before had all sounded like that. At the time, I took it personally, to mean that he was either mad at me or didn't want to be talking to me. Now in hindsight, he just sounds sad. I think maybe I have made myself out to be way more important in this horrible situation than I actually was- which in a way is freeing to me. Maybe this is just him screwed up, and our R a sad by-product of his issues right now. I don't know if any of this makes sense to anyone, but I would love to hear your thoughts.
I can relate to the sad by-product part, as you are probably aware of my ex's situation. One thing you have to realize - unless you were a horrible person, then this isn't your fault...its all his, he wanted this and he did the things he did under his own volition. But, yeah, it can very well be a product of his own issues and most likely is that - I've seen the destruction first hand what issues can do to both a person and a marriage. Ugh.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
