Completely agree with the failure of the marriage. I would never dream of putting that all on her. Actually, the failure of the marriage itself I am more than willing to accept at least 90% of. However, the failure of the marriage didn't put us where we are now. There was no chance for me to make it right, there was no counseling, there was no heart to heart...only her stepping out with another person. I have come to terms with my faults in the marriage. Regardless I didn't drive her to do what she has done/is doing. Affairs aren't about unmet needs as most people like to passify it. Affairs are about entitlement. Lack of self discipline, lack of will power, and pure raw entitlement lead people to affairs....not bad relationships. I will most certainly not go in "guns blazing". My intent moving forward is not to attack her by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, I am willing to completely let her go at this point with ZERO punishment. My intent is to clearly state what I NEED to be able to CONSIDER moving forward with her.
