On the long and lonely road - trying to own it

[KevinIn]

I wanted to know if what JujuB once said to me, which gave me a lot of comfort, will be true - that OW won't be all about the fun and sweetness and light - eventually. Rationally I know it's true but at the moment it feels like I am lying to myself - that WH has swanned off into the sunset with his fairy tale ending and they are always going to be ridiculously happy.

This post just gave me incredible clarity on something - going dark, detaching, etc. gives the wayward spouse nothing to talk about to the OM/OW.

Right now, i know that my wife goes to the OM for comfort and to talk about me. If I give her absolutely nothing negative to talk about or to vent about, their relationship is much less intense. Then they'll have to talk about other things, which could open up to their own relationship issues.

So, just one more good reason to detach. Still easier said than done though.