I wanted to know if what JujuB once said to me, which gave me a lot of comfort, will be true - that OW won't be all about the fun and sweetness and light - eventually. Rationally I know it's true but at the moment it feels like I am lying to myself - that WH has swanned off into the sunset with his fairy tale ending and they are always going to be ridiculously happy.
Honestly, I wouldn't bother myself if/when things happen with the OW. It's out of your hands, anyway, and won't do anything but make you sick. I know because I've been there. It took me the longest to come to grips with things about that...and even longer to realize that her affair wasn't about some crises (even though her issues played a part). The fact that, in her mind, she was done and gone before the affair happened. And what made it worse, was me beating myself up knowing that she was attracted to him and LOVED him. Sigh. That is the deal breaker.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
