Same Sitch. New Approach. Motivated. Feeling Good.

[Chris73]

Every time her phone is unattended and I don't snoop, I see that as a small victory.

^^This 100 times over!!

Mine even went so far as to turn off message preview and lay the phone face down when she's not holding it or it's not in her pocket. Secretly I'm glad she does. Every time her phone vibrates or dings with another txt my eyes shoot over to see if I can catch a glimpse of who it is or what it says. If she ever leaves the phone face up I start reading into it... "Maybe she's inviting me to trust her again." It's ridiculous, there's nothing to read into. She just didn't think to turn it over, that's all.

Clearly I'm not fully detached, but I think that noticing my automatic habits and identifying them for what they are is progress from where I was 6 months ago.