MLC? Maybe you can tell me...

[SBJ]

He's said we drifted apart a long time ago, he's said he doesn't want to work on it (based on what his subconscious told him in hypnosis), says he wants to be happy and find someone who inspires him to be a better husband.

Karen that is the script talking. My W said the same thing. It went from a year, to two, to 6, to the last 18 years...she kept changing things.

I don't know if he's rewriting history or if I'm just telling myself that to make it easier on myself. I don't see how we could have been so happy for years if he had these regrets all along. How do you fake it for 20 years without letting it show?

The rewriting is all part of their process from what I've been told. It seems that they have been unhappy for years, but not with you...it is all about themselves.

I find detaching and GALing is easy in theory, difficult in practice. It takes so much effort for me to take my eyes off the trainwreck unfolding in my house. When I'm able to pull it off, it works. The stress is gone.

It's just hard to detach from someone that "you" are committed to. You have to put them into God's hands and allow him to work in their lives. Keep yourself grounded in your own faith and you will thrive.

You're going to be saying "I don't get it" a lot. Many times, they don't make any sense...

I think mine is...This doesn't make any sense...this is crazy.

Their skull is filled with spaghetti where their brain use to be.

My W is gluten intolerant so hers is filled with spaghetti squash instead of pasta...haha.

You are NOT crazy. You are just in a crazy situation that he thinks is perfectly normal, and that makes you think you're crazy.

It does feel that we are crazy, but we are just passengers on their crazy train. Ozzy said it best in his song of the same name...

Mental wounds not healing
Who and what's to blame
I'm goin' off the rails on a crazy train
I'm goin' off the rails on a crazy train

If you haven't read the lighthouse story, I suggest you do it. No matter how crazy things are with our spouses, we need to remain strong no matter what is going on with them. Stand strong in the storm and know that you are not doing this all on your own.