I'm afraid I am not deserving of your opinion I've progressed - you will see from my previous post which I was typing when you sent yours that I've had a little wobble. But still standing.
There is a huge difference between wobbly and a blubbering heap. Own it.
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What happened to make ghost of ex re-materalise? Any tips on compartmentalising? I have never done that well.
Sigh. It's just little things that pop up. To many what-ifs and what could have beens, I guess. She had the kids this weekend and it was a little comment by one of the kids that sparked it. Doesn't take much, I'm afraid, due to the uniqueness of the situation.
Not an expert on compartmentalizing as that ghost takes up space. But learning how to divert focus and attention is the key. When I find myself going down the dark path, I try to shift my attention and focus on something that needs to be done. My mind works in overdrive so I'm able to move from one to another. Notice I say compartmentalize, because that's pretty much what it is - they will always take space and we have to learn to keep them in their box - because we can't rid our mind of them. That's impossible. So, we learn to surround those thoughts with other things - whether it be work, hobbies, whatever. Some may call this silly, but I have also found a little trick that works when I'm in free time...which is building an imaginary city, whatever in your mind...in my case, I go from experience and do something military wise. From the ground up. Gives you something to think about when your mind wanders.
You are doing fine!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
