You are 1 relationship above me. 3 for 8 years are my stat.
My longest was also 9 months.

Out of those 4 relationship, did you have a common obstacle?

When meeting women, are you clear on what a relationship means to you and the kind of relationship you want?

In my experiences, one wanted the "your place, my place" and we do some things together... To me, this is called a friendship.

Another one was willing to move in asap. He wanted ALL OF ME, ALL OF MY TIME AND ATTENTION but he was also bashing all our friends and none of them were good enough for us.. REALLY?? Those people who have welcomed me and him to their table for the past 5 years are no longer good enough?? I don' t think so..

The third one.. well this one was actually my first relationship after the divorce. He was just right. He thought I hit the jackpot. Until I found out about his WIFE.. He was married!! That was the end of that..

Common obstacle in all 3 were: My 4 kids. My lack of time for the relationship. This came up in all 3. Even though I was very clear of my situation, it still came up.

Conclusion for me: Relationship is sitting on the shelf for later. I was blessed with 4 children and I am their role model and sole parent they can count on. My priority is them.

What we were looking for in our younger years and what we want now is totally different. The goal is not the same. The relationship is not the same. We are not looking to build a future and family.. We have this.. What are we really looking for then?? Ask this question to the ladies you meet.. You will get a multitude of answers. And then, watch their actions. You will soon realize that many people in our age group do not know what they want!! Many are looking for what is missing in their life at that SPECIFIC time you asked. exemple: she is feeling lonely, she' ll tell you she wants companionship. She feels busy, strong, and independent,, she' ll tell you she wants someone to do things with "at times".. she feels overwhelm, she' ll tell you she wants some to hold and hugs..

All these things are normal.. Once you enter the relationship, you need to pay attention and deliver.. same for her.. TIME AND DEVOTION DON.. if you do not put in the time, you will not get the result you are looking for..