did you ever have separation with your wife, with a legal agreement? Were you ever financially separated and did she have the legal right to be with other men?
I can't answer for LITB, but in my state there is no legal separation agreement. I was strongly advised not to date anyone until my divorce was finalized...with strongly being the operative word.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.