Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #3

[Woke_Up]

Things I wish to improve about me: Confidence and assertiveness as and when required. I need to stop second guessing myself and over analysing things. More comfortable with making decisions, not to defer to other as much. More balanced in my life, with time for family, me, and work, and the ability to be more proactive with getting things done, which links to the confidence issue.

I'm doing alright in some respects, I've done OK job and career wise, I'm getting back into probably the best shape I've been in for 10 years, if not 20 years.

But your gentle truth dart hits home - I have still been seeing myself and W as a couple, in R, and focusing on trying to get the EA to stop, get rid of OM, to enable the rift healing to begin. People are right, even though you know, academically, that this won't work, you don't know until you know inside. I think this week, moving from "'I'm going to end it' to ML to 'screw you, I'm emigrating to be with OM', to 'I'm torn, but you'll never change'", has been a clear demonstration of the WW mindset: All over the bloody place.

I only hope I can have the patience and perseverance you have been demonstrating to see me through this and out the other side, a stronger and better man.