I disagree with Texas on this one. ML can rekindle her fire for you, especially if you don't say yes every time. I would think of some strategic approaches on this one. Keep GAL and sometimes don't be home when she gets home. STOP hinging your emotions on her reaction or non-reaction. She's cold, detached, angry? Okay, keep on keepin' on with your life. Start to dress nice for no reason, change your hair or clothing, whatever to get a new look. Find ways to laugh again, men with warm/belly laughs are HOT! Continue to "act as if" you are in control of your life and this situation because in a way, you are. ML wasn't necessarily a nail in the coffin, rather it may have ignited some attraction she previously felt towards you. You just can't depend on her to be consistent right now, okay? But [b]you[b] can be consistent with the positive changes.

Want a divorce? No? Then STOP obsessing about divorce and start focusing on how you've changed inside. Before the BD day what your wife's complaints about you? There is sometimes a grain of truth in the mud. Also, keep being present to you kids so you be the anchor to their stability. As far as whether or not the DBing could hurt the kids, how can you changing yourself to be a better man and father be detrimental?

M 10yrs T 13yrs
BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW
BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off
Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce
April '17-Letting go
2018 D busted
DD8, DS6, DS3