I don't really consider being a "vessel" an example of "coming through"...well....unless, of course, you spell "coming" differently. ;-)
My wife is working on our intimacy but she just doesn't seem to want to work on the desire part. She seems to be holding on to the idea that, if she just grits her teeth and offers up "da pooty," a couple times a month, everything will work out fine. This just makes my skin crawl.....