Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #3

[Woke_Up]

So DB coaching session today. Went through our history and current sitch.

Talked a little bit about what had caused it - W had gone onto Twitter to find like minded people as we were arguing a lot about issues in Europe and the UK with the mass immigration situation and various sex attacks. She felt I was putting out D in danger as I had slightly different views to her. There's more to it but I don't particularly want to share it on here.

Anyway, my coach suggested a softer approach, as has been Sen elsewhere. Try to build a friendship. Treat her as a friendly houseguest. Stop all pursuing behaviours, and stop my snooping. She also told me to stop focussing on OM, not to contact him again, he was obviously not a decent man to be doing what he is doing when he knows there is a family involved. Lots of stuff people on here have already said.

She also suggested a couple of books to get, including the 5 love languages.

She felt there were issues with how much we fight, and the fact that we both need to be right, but those could be addressed. 'Right fighters' she called it.

Then, as I said above, I walked back into the remainder of her spew and fight picking.

I'll stop the snooping. I must admit, I did glance this morning after she was talking about emigrating, saying the kids would be safer in America, that Europe was ruined and wouldn't be safe. OM was talking to her about coming to the UK. That won't go well if he does.

I'd told her that I wouldn't let her take my kids away, and that she couldn't legally do it. She threatened to do it illegally. I also told her if OM came over here because she couldn't go over there, it wouldn't end well. That if he went near my kids, I'd break his legs.

Great going eh?

If only you could psychically know when the spew is coming and schedule the coaching for before instead of after.