Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #3

[Woke_Up]

Gordie, I haven't read up on it, it was on my to do list. I'll prioritise it. I had more of the same when I got back from taking D5 out. At least that was a nice time. Took her to spend some of her birthday money at the Disney store in the city, then took her for lunch.

W was still talking emigration when I returned. Then. As I was going to cycle to collect my car, she offered to take me. I picked some ingredients up for dinner then wanted to get some privacy for my DB coaching, and W wasn't letting me. I'd said I had a training call and she was just going to sit in the study while I did it to see what I was up to - she thought I was going to talk to a L again. I eventually had to tell her I was talking to a counsellor to help me with the difficult situation. I ended up going out into the garage for the call.

Afterwards she started pressuring me, wanted to know who it was, which company, what I talked about. When I said if she wanted counselling she should find someone, she started saying that OM was her counsellor and that I had interfered and wouldn't give her any privacy so she wouldn't give me any privacy. I had to leave the area.

Then, at dinner she started asking more questions, I had to deflect as much as possible, just said it was mostly stuff to work on me with my issues and help with my anxiety.

Then she started saying that she was torn, but then started bringing up past stuff, the stuff that led to this sitch. I validated where I could, but it wasn't easy. She always does this in front of D. I was trying not to get into any type of R talks, as per DB coach but I wasn't being let off the hook.

Things weren't so bad later, W had a bath with D, and was happy enough for me to be in there, then we spoke about inconsequential things later in her room, and I had my hand on her leg at one point, which she was ok with. Also, just before bed, she asked me to keep her company while she went out to smoke a joint. She has started doing this almost nightly since this sitch got bad. She was going to stop but lasted 2 days. Apparent going to stop again on Monday, however I'm not holding out. I do think this is linked to her EA and addictiveness/anxiety.

When she did go to bed, although pleasant before hand, she didn't bother saying goodnight. I resisted the urge to go to her room and say it.

All in all, this day has sucked.