Just received separation papers. Has anyone here ever reconciled after that?
Yes.
I'll tell you what. I had the same fear as you. If I didn't do what made my W happy, then I feared it would push her further away. I was pursuing and pleading with her to reconsider. I agreed to allow her to move 1100 miles away from me with our children, because I was too caught up trying to appease her. And I was misled by an attorney, but that was completely on me.
That's the readers digest version. You can go back and read my first couple of threads. The second time it happened, I was better prepared on how to handle things.
The scripts for both WAS/LBS are pretty common. Things changed the most for me when I was away from the boards and not obsessed with my sitch. It is an amazing feeling to know that things are going to turn out alright no matter the outcome with my W. As a matter of fact, I had accepted that my M was over and life was still going to be beautiful.
Happy and confident are attractive. Get there and the rest will take care of itself.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
