I am more than happy to share with you what worked for me and what didn't. I can tell you that I paid a big price for allowing fear to be my guide. Financially and time separated from my children. I call it the fog of fear. Members on here tried to warn me, but I thought that I knew better. Anyway, lessons learned.
Hey, LITB. Can you tell me more about what you learned through the process -- the mistakes you made, and the things you learned that worked, at least on your wife? And can you tell me more about how fear was a problem for you?
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.
I'll give you credit for admitting your changes are motivated to change your W's mind. I will still hammer you to make the changes for yourself. The changes are more likely to stick if you do them for yourself.
Have you considered volunteer work? Serving at a soup kitchen for example. I believe when we are busy helping others, it helps us put our focus elsewhere. Additionally, you will be able to form new friendship.
I am a believer myself. It was incredibly helpful in my growth. Again, do it for yourself. Not to see your W at church.
Time to start a new thread.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
