This thread is much much where im at, as i sit awake in the middle of the night trying to grasp whats going on.

Thank you all for your stories and advice.

I believe in marriage and fundamentally want to do everything to make it work, but yesterday wife said its over, nothing will change that, she wants full separation, and she does not believe in marriage. She wants what will make her happy (she feels she will be a better mother without me in the picture).

I need to completely detach, and truly forgive. I know the resentment and other negative feelings that have kept me up all night are bad.

Oh, and tomorrow is my daughter's birthday party so i have to see wife and her parents. It will be hard.


M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6
11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process