Hi sandi2, Doing sort of ok. Things have been better between us, but she is still going interstate in about 10 days time. We've both agreed that we need to work on ourselves before we can make our marriage work, so we've been mindful of the other person and trying to help each other out as much as possible. This week has been hard as the kids have been sick and haven't been sleeping well. I've organised a night nannie to spend some time with us to help us get our 11 month old into some sort of sleeping patterns. Self settling and the sorts. It's helped, but it takes a couple of weeks for it to really work. I'm still concerned that when she goes interstate and spends time with her family, alot of the blame and issues will be towards me, rather than the real issues like the loss of our son, my wife's struggles with the kids , the post traumatic stress. I'm also worried that when our little one starts sleeping through the night and my wife gets some decent sleep and feels better, that she may think she's feeling better cause she's away from me. Then again, maybe she will be. Her family have no idea of her stresses other than the stuff I've told them. They're a bit airy fairy and like to think everything should be perfect and there shouldn't be struggles in a marriage. so I think they'll try to convince her that she'll be happier by ending the marriage And that a marriage shouldn't be that hard.
