The reason I wanted to make clear about the 10 year thing...
Is that I know there are certain guidelines in place in your state that allow for Alimony and such. I think that anything before 10 years is a take what ya brung deal....
And that anything over 16 years is lifetime Alimony...
Check with a lawyer before you decide...
Make sure she isn't playin you on this..
I wanted to absorb what you wrote a while before I responded...
And it appears, that you are kinda all over the place with your emotions, and trying to figure out just exactly where YOU stand in this whole mess...
And you seem like a whole bunch of nice people right now....
You are trying to please her, and you are selling yourself to do that.
However..
You have no idea who CBT is, because you are using all of your time trying to be a Father and a Husband to someone who doesn't want one of those right now....
You cannot play both sides of the fence like that....
Who is CBT ??
What does he want ??
How does he get there ??
Forget the rest for now.....
Sometimes it isn't always about knowing what you want....
It's more about having a plan on how to get there....
