skyhigh...Thanks for the comments. YES, I also think that she is in either EA/PA/Fantasy, but nothing has been seen since mid-July around the point of BD. You are not being cruel, since it is basically a symptom of MLC.
I haven't rushed for anything with regard to the D process, but I haven't dragged my feet either. I am just doing things as they need to be done.
She is definitely trying to keep her reputation in a positive light. She is a cradle Catholic, but obviously not a true believer of what is taught. She feels that since our parents divorced that it is OK for us to do it. It also depends on your strength of faith as to what you believe about D...some think that D means that you aren't married any more, but others believe that you will always be married in God's eyes.
Just wanted to jump in on this one .....
My MLCr too is a cradle Catholic, shortly after BD I found myself at my own personal rock bottom and with some not so gentle nudging from God I went through RCIA and became Catholic. This armed me with knowledge of the faith along with a full backpack of righteousness I could hurl at my MLCr at will. I recall attending mass and receiving the Eucharist and watching my MLCr do the same knowing she was in a full on affair ... was a gut punch and I could not believe she would do such a thing while committing a mortal sin .... I also did not understand at the time how God was allowing such disrespect.
Over time as my faith grew, along with my understanding and relationship with God, I checked myself ... not my place to judge ... not even close with all I have done. Be careful about tossing the Good Book at her in such ways, God works with us in His own way on His own timeline, its a mere blip for Him, where for us it seems like eternity. I caution you because this line of thought that I highlighted is the path to resentment, instead just simply pray for her and give her and your M to God and do not allow this crisis to ruin more lives than it already has.
