I think they should make adultery a criminal offence with a big fine or some thing,might stop some of this crap and damage caused to families,
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
I think they should make adultery a criminal offence with a big fine or some thing,might stop some of this crap and damage caused to families,
Seems like a good idea to me. I think I'm in the same situation as you guys are in, but I haven't yet found conclusive proof of OM, but I feel so strongly that there is one, and I've got some decent evidence of it.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
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I'm trying to be strong. She called and text again about meeting. I haven't responded yet. I just don't understand what questions she has that she can't ask me over the phone. I don't want to meet her at the house as it could lead to sex. I really am trying to stand my ground and say drop the divorce then we can talk.
Not knowing what she's wanting is driving me crazy.
It is called temperature checking. That's where the WW will say or do something to see how you will respond. Sometime (especially women) will turn on the tears, use physical touches, be all sweet & nice, on & on.....the list is almost endless. Here's the thing.....once she sees the H still wants her, and does not have a new girlfriend....she's right back to her wayward self. She never intended to do the right thing and doesn't want to do whatever is necessary to save the M.
Look, she heard you may be dating and it stirred up her jealousy....so she needs to make a little temp check and see if it is true......and to see if she can stir your feelings for her. That is why she is so "desperate" to see you in person! Many men have succumb to tempt checking, thinking the W was changing. They were in for a rude awakening.
I don't understand why this is temperature checking. It's clear he still wants her, or he wouldn't tell her to call off the divorce before meeting her. Sorry. I'm trying to learn.
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.
I think they should make adultery a criminal offence with a big fine or some thing,might stop some of this crap and damage caused to families,
Seems like a good idea to me. I think I'm in the same situation as you guys are in, but I haven't yet found conclusive proof of OM, but I feel so strongly that there is one, and I've got some decent evidence of it.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
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I'm trying to be strong. She called and text again about meeting. I haven't responded yet. I just don't understand what questions she has that she can't ask me over the phone. I don't want to meet her at the house as it could lead to sex. I really am trying to stand my ground and say drop the divorce then we can talk.
Not knowing what she's wanting is driving me crazy.
It is called temperature checking. That's where the WW will say or do something to see how you will respond. Sometime (especially women) will turn on the tears, use physical touches, be all sweet & nice, on & on.....the list is almost endless. Here's the thing.....once she sees the H still wants her, and does not have a new girlfriend....she's right back to her wayward self. She never intended to do the right thing and doesn't want to do whatever is necessary to save the M.
Look, she heard you may be dating and it stirred up her jealousy....so she needs to make a little temp check and see if it is true......and to see if she can stir your feelings for her. That is why she is so "desperate" to see you in person! Many men have succumb to tempt checking, thinking the W was changing. They were in for a rude awakening.
I don't understand why this is temperature checking. It's clear he still wants her, or he wouldn't tell her to call off the divorce before meeting her. Sorry. I'm trying to learn.
Hi wsh yep that's how I first was gut feeling and it was right,as for temp testing,its kind of to make sure your their in waiting in case they need you like a plan b,they like to play pingpong and cake eat,and if they can have 2 on the go they will,my wife was jumping out of my bed and then into other mans bed until dday when I found out,
Me 56 w52 M30 years 4x adult kids W dad died/11 W wanted d 03/12 In-house sep 03/12 D 2014 I pushed W Left on 02/16 I pushed Pa on 07/16 Nc after 07/16 W Cakeating 15to16 Me doormat 12to16 Limbo 12to16
Checking in. Been a few weeks. I never agreed to meet spouse since she wouldn't give me a reason. Last week she kept asking the same questions above. I finally told her that I did miss her at times and do think of her. I thought about trying to meet. Now she says my time has expired..... She wouldn't talk for months and it took me several weeks to gain the courage to talk and now she pulls back.
Hope others read this and learn. I'm doing ok, maybe disappointed. My lawyer is drawing up a settlement now. I expect it to be rejected even though it is more than fair for her.
