She moved out, filed, but I'm still working Pt. 5

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skyhigh...Thanks for the comments.
YES, I also think that she is in either EA/PA/Fantasy, but nothing has been seen since mid-July around the point of BD. You are not being cruel, since it is basically a symptom of MLC.

I haven't rushed for anything with regard to the D process, but I haven't dragged my feet either. I am just doing things as they need to be done.

She is definitely trying to keep her reputation in a positive light. She is a cradle Catholic, but obviously not a true believer of what is taught. She feels that since our parents divorced that it is OK for us to do it. It also depends on your strength of faith as to what you believe about D...some think that D means that you aren't married any more, but others believe that you will always be married in God's eyes.

We are actually splitting custody 50/50...one week on and one week off. This has been terrible for me as I would love for my kids to be with me 100% of the time, but I deal. I think that on her week off, she is kind of dark, so nobody knows what she is really doing. I am trying to detach even more so that it doesn't bother me.

As far as her influence, I agree with you. I think that I have still been letting her control my moods and emotions, but I am getting better. She is great at trying to bend you to believe her thoughts and feelings are the best way to go. I am tired of the semi-manipulative behavior. She knows how I feel and that I do not think that D is the best way to go. She knows that I believe that God can and will guide us thru a successful reconciliation if she and I would only ask for his help. She is not willing to go there.

I do not mind your thoughts as I can honestly say, that no man will ever understand a woman truly, but even more so a woman going thru a MLC. And your thoughts on how they are the best liars in the world probably hold true. She would never treat her family the way she is treating them now, and I am not only talking about me. The two family members that are enabling her she has kept a close relationship with. The two that have disagreed with...one has been excommunicated by her and her father has simply stopped discussing it with her so that she will not disown him. He is non-confrontational by nature anyway.

I strive to be better every day...a better husband, father, son, and brother. I thank you for your input and I too belive that "What does not kill you makes you stronger". I believe that God is working on her in her quiet time and will eventually see his light.