I know that I was a neglectful husband that lost too much appreciation for her, and that is why I could trust her again. Because I strongly believe, and she has told me this as well, that if I'm doing my part, she won't look elsewhere for what she needs. Had I been a perfect husband, yes, it would be hard to trust her again to not abandon me, but I was far from perfect. I had no idea then how bad I was, but she has made it clear, and throughout my studies of this now, I have seen many of the errors I made. I wasn't conscious of the differences between what men need and what women need in a relationship. And I had been with her for so long, that I thought I was doing fine. I failed to make her feel cherished. In the future, if I know for a fact that I'm doing what I need to be doing, and she still abandons me, then yes, it would be hard to want her again, I think.


M: 33, W: 30 @BD
M 7, T 10
BD: Early Dec
W left: Late Dec
W got stuff: Late Jan
W sent S papers: Mid Feb
OM cnfrmd: Late Feb

Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.