Newby here . . . (Thread 7)

[JRuss]

Hey FG -- thanks for checking in. I'm holding up pretty well, honestly. I catch myself thinking about the future without her and not being that sad about it. Other times, I cycle back into pretty bad places, but I guess I'm experiencing higher highs and at least a little higher lows.

I thought we were really close to having everything agreed in terms of the financial settlement and the parenting plan, and the STBX even complained that she was frustrated that things were taking so long, but now things have ground to a halt. The documents are in her court, and there really wasn't anything to my last set of requested changes, so I'm not sure what's going on. I do know her father told her my child support payments I'll be making each month were "pitiful", but he's an idiot and doesn't know that there isn't any negotiating on that -- its an algorithm that spits out the number based on parenting days and income differential. But I wouldn't be surprised if she's convinced herself she should get alimony, knows this will upset me and throw the deal into disarray, and is waffling. Who knows? Not my circus, not my monkeys. I don't think it has anything to do with even a whiff of hesitation as to whether this is what she really wants, based on (the unchanged) in-home demeanor.

How are you doing?