As I agree I have had slip ups and it doesn't make it right. I think she choosing to see what she wants to and blocking what she doesn't. That's what I feel. Doesn't make it true.
So let me get this straight here...
You admit that she is not making this last journal entry up, and you admit to "slipping up" , and you agree that you have behaved that way in the past, and are STILL to some extent acting that way...
Yet you want to blame her for only seeing what she wants to see ?
Which by the way, seems to be exactly the things that you have admitted to slipping up on ??
What are you giving her that is any different than 4 years ago ?
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
Nope. I'm not in a marriage with close friends and neighbors. But I do have relationships with them.
Intimate ones ?
Where you talk and share your daily life with them ?
Where they count on you for certain aspects of life ? Bills ? Raising a child with them ??
They see what you choose to show them....nothing more, nothing less....
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
See my response above about her choosing what she wants. I guess others see it differently.
I guess I do also...
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
It's not an excuse. I won't live in a sexless one sided marriage. Hence why I told her the things I did. I am not asking her to make a choice.
She didn't ask you to make the choice that you did either...she most certainly didn't ask you to choose to stand for your marriage...
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
I am choosing to stay till she finishes up school because its better for my son so he isn't completely taken care of by babysitters while she does 400 hours of clinicals.
B-S....
I'm not buying that one.
I think that you are staying because it makes you look like you tried even harder than you did to "save' this marriage, and the guilt over it not being saved is eating at you...
She is still going to do the clinicals, and you are still gonna be in the picture with him...
So who is he staying with IF you wait it out ???
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
The reason I will leave is because I am unhappy. And I am tired of being unhappy.
Same reason that she chose to leave a few years ago huh ???
Look dude, we have a history posting here , and I am not trying to make you feel worse than you already do...
But dammit dude, start interjecting some honesty into this...
You are wounded, and it shows...
You are hurt, and it shows...
You are anxious, and it shows...
You are afraid....and it shows...
And if I can see it, only reading your words here...then how do you think that the person that sees you everyday sees it ???
The person that knows you better than anyone else ???
How long do you think that it takes her to sniff out your moods ???
Your fear ??
Your hurt ??
C....you know how to get in touch with me, anytime....
