Good for you for stopping the snooping - I too was obsessed for a while, it's really hard to pull away... and yes it definitely pushes them away further. I only wish I could rewind and do it all over again, but content with where I am now as I've taken the time off/separated to really work on myself, which I may not have done had she stuck around.

Me: 40 W: 45
T: 13, M: 11
1 D: 9

Suspect A 6/15
ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16
EA/PA Discovered 3/16
EA admitted 3/16
W Moved out 4/16
W opens R talk and says A over 1/17