Her anger and resentment toward me is what led to me becoming suspicious. It is her rewriting history to make everything my fault to justify her A. Not to say some things ARENT my fault but her choosing to have the affair is not my fault and she has totally skew her perception of me to justify.
Good question in terms of why I would want to help her. I guess it's not helping her as much as trying to figure out how to DB around it. The more I detach the further away she gets. Part of me is fighting with the rationale of it all. In my case I think she uses it as logs on her fire that I am in the wrong. In short I feel my detaching is just quickening the process for her to come to a conclusion that she never wants to be back with me.
I guess it's the point. She needs to follow this road on her own and I have to live with the fact - and be prepared for - that her road might be a one way street to her never wanting to consider trying to save our marriage.
