It's hard not to have expectations. I have expectations of myself as a feeling, thinking, thoughtful human being and I would like to think he does too, but at this point in his life maybe he doesn't?
This really does wear a person out
That is something that I think we are all dealing with...the one person that we have known for so long is a totally different person right now. The expectations that we once had of them no longer apply. My W has always been the least selfish, most giving person I know, but has morphed into this totally selfish, self-absorbed person.
And you are right...this is exhausting. Maybe that is why the DB thing makes sense. We should pull our focus away from them and truly focus on helping, healing, and growing for ourselves. Then, no matter what happens with our spouses journey, we will be better people in the end.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!
