You are right in what you say. I just know who I am (and it sounds like you might also) when it comes to communicating with my H. I allow myself to get worked up and show anger and emotions I shouldn't. We have basically zero communication, so when it does occur I honestly do not know how to respond to him.
It's hard not to have expectations. I have expectations of myself as a feeling, thinking, thoughtful human being and I would like to think he does too, but at this point in his life maybe he doesn't?
