Well he might be younger than you but he is still biologically old enough to be your daughters father. Whats the big deal?
I say go for it.
Happy for you!
Very good point! And I can't be his father, so it's all good! And thank you JOb. I'm realizing so much how age is just a number.
I could go on today about the things we discussed but I did find out he has dated an older woman with kids. There was one other in the past, and it was a pretty serious relationship. he said he was hesitant to tell me because he was afraid I was going to think it was his MO. Actually, it comforted me, because it is not the first time dealing with a single mom and he knows what he is getting into. We spoke a lot about our feelings and he even said I don't want you to think I'm crazy, I don't want you t o get worried by my excitement, but I just have this comfortable ease and it fels like I 've known you much longer. It's new to him. We spoke about it for a long time. We are very much on the same wavelength with it.
We did speak about the future of kids.That other woman couldn't have anymore. He said it wasn't why they broke up and not the dealbreaker. I did explain it wasn't particularly in my plans to have anymore. I said I can't say for sure that I am not going to have anymore, and I can't say for sure that I am. I told him I am working on trying to figure out if it is my trauma that makes me feel this way, or I am just done with having kids. he was very understanding.
I've doing a lot of hard thinking about the warnings of his enthusiasm and the such. I've spent my life with lack of enthusiasm from me, including my own ex husband. They just kind of liked me there. It was about their agenda. They could take or leave me. Ex-NG I believe was enthusiastic, but in the end, that was just words, and I learned that. This one would certainly go out of the way for me, no doubt. I can't sit here and say everything is a red flag. because right now my gut isn't getting bad feelings at all. I think I deserve to enjoy someone who is really into me and shows it for once. I am really into him too. And not just because he is in to me. We can just talk and talk for hours, we have fun together, we certainly can laugh together, we like a similar level of affection, we are both willing to try different things and have a good time. It's just a good connection. So I'm gonna enjoy it!
