Chris73 - sounds like you and I are on slightly similar paths - although in my case W has opened the door stating that her A is over, but on the other hann we are still physically separated. We have definitely been growing as "friends" over the last 6 weeks and did have the opportunity to hold her hand this past weekend but not so sure she was completely "on board" with it.
You brought up a good reminder that I haven't exactly been practicing - avoid the problem solving right now - so glad I came across your post.
Keep up the good work - I think being friends but with boundaries can only help.
V-Day sucked for me too... but it sucked last year too.
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17