Her MLC: The Battle I Didn't Choose

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Brubeck - sorry about the job. I know exactly what you mean about the importance of having a kind work environment. When you have a live-in, you can't go from one misery to the next and and then back to the first, only to start it all over again.

The MLC paranoia is brutal. Not much more I can say on that. And yes, mine grew worse, too, over time as my posts chronicle.

I was thinking of you recently. When we returned from back east and revisited all my h's old haunts he retold many stories from childhood plus added some new horrific gems to the pile. In general, I found it very hard to be around his parents. I just know too much. And yes, it was long ago and people change: blah, blah, blah. But a child is a child and wrong is always wrong.

Anyway I thought of you and wondered how you managed to live with your MIL, too, through it all. I was curious how your MIL handles this all? Does she notice that something is very wrong with her daughter?

I just went through interviews myself. I also feel like I did not exhibit enough confidence. I found I needed to sell myself more but without cockiness. Also? I did the best at the companies where I immediately (from cover letter to phone screen to interview) specifically told them what I loved about them. If they made x product, I went, bought it and spoke specifically about it. If they provided y service "oh, I love this about your service..." I also researched the companies, extensively, via Glassdoor to see what past interviewees and current employees said. I was surprised by how often people relayed information that ended up being true.

One last thing I found had changed is that now it is acceptable at the end of a phone screen to politely ask for an interview! I am so old that I was taught this was rude and unprofessional. But if it's a role you do like, it is acceptable to say something like: "I am really interested in this position and I'd love the opportunity to interview for this."

You've got this! Just look at what you've already survived.

It was nice to hear an update.