Needing Some Guidance 2

[KCRoo]

Well she called my work line, so I took her call. I didn't want to but if I don't answer my paralegal or secretary will, and I don't really want them knowing what is going on.

At first she said that she was not going to go out tonight (her and her friends call it wine Wednesday). That she needs to start respecting my wishes, and working on us.

She then told me that she had spoken with her mother about what had been going on this week. She said that her mother told her that married women do not go out and give their phone numbers to random guys that they drunkenly met. She told me how she explained to her mom, that she was that unhappy in our marriage and that is why she did that. She said that her mom could then see her point.

I didn't respond. She said that she wanted to go out tonight. I told her that is her deal. She then told me that she was not happy. She didn't know why, but she was unhappy. That most of our problems were caused by her, but that I contributed to some of her unhappiness.

She then asked how comes I didn't want to go out and drink every night like she did. I told her that I have to think in my job, and cant be hung over (as soon as they left my mouth I regretted it). She started to say so you think I don't have to think for my job. I said no, I know you do. My job consists of me sitting behind my computer all day; reading, writing, and thinking.

She then said it is not like she gets drunk all the time. She then back tracked, and said she knows she did for a couple of weeks, but that she just likes to go out.

I then reminded her (at some point over the last month or two, she told me that her biggest fear is that we would not get back to like it was a year ago) that a year ago she was not going out all the time, and that if that was truly her biggest fear, then she needed to stop going out all the time.

She started to yell. I told her that I understand this is very important to her, but that I was not yelling at her, so she is to not yell at me. If she continued to yell, we would have this talk later. She calmed down, and said she was not happy.

I told her goodbye.