Maybe She Isn't Evil

[RDS]

My W actually told me how hurt she was that it took something like a PA to finally wake me up to her unhappiness and make a change. I thought that was BS cause no matter what it takes 2 to make a marriage work and she could have come to me before actually having a PA with someone else. Yes, I have seen my faults after all this, but what about hers?

I think the next time I talk to my W I'm going to ask her if she feels any resentment towards me because it took her leaving me before I opened my eyes. I keep going through my head if we would have just talked like we've been doing the last few months then all this could have been avoided. I wish she would have broke down emotionally before she left me to force me to see how bad I had become...

As it was she only broke down in front of me after she left and by then it was too late.

Can't keep blaming yourself forever. At least you realize now so you can only learn from your sitch even if it doesn't turn out the way you want. Keep the conversations pleasant and off anything that would make her upset. Be a friend to her and keep making her feel comfortable talking to you again.

Thanks, I'm going to try.