When my wife left, she agreed to go to a MC session. She said she enjoyed it and was glad she went, but then wouldn't go to anymore sessions. I probably screwed up too much by arguing with her (defending myself, mostly). Every time I argued with her after she went cold, every argument turned into this huge firestorm in her that did nothing but fuel her rage, push her away more, and make her want to go through with leaving me. I wish I had known sooner. When things were normal between, if she blew up, she would feel really sorry about it and come crying to me. Not the same dynamic at all now. The blowups are the most intense things I have ever seen, and only seem to result in bad things. The first time she had a major blow up, I hoped she was getting things out of her system -- that it was helping her mellow out. Nope. Hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned. If only I had known what I was doing. But I was a clueless husband.
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.
