I've got a dilemma which I think I worked out, but let me start by my wonderful V-day. He came over last night after D9 was in bed. He brought be 2 dozen roses, a bear that sings and a bottle of wine. I near cried, as I have not had the holiday acknowledged since Ex-H. It's not a huge deal to me, but I've either been alone, or been with someone who refuses to even acknowledge the holiday. So it was just the sweetest surprise. Yeah, commercial holiday, but it does feel good. He actually told me he got a card and he said his handwriting was so awful, he threw it out. he wasn't going to tell me but he did.
We stood in my kitchen for like 2 hours talking and sharing the wine. We could both talk forever. He's open and honest with his feelings and he told me how excited he gets to see me, how he just likes to make me happy. He told me about how he appreciates my independence but likes the way I look to him to be the man in certain situations to take the lead. Seriously, that is exactly what I look for. He understands it. The plumber was so off from that. He thought me washing the dishes while he smacks my butt was being a man. Everything about me and FF clicks so far. It's scary. I have had a perma smile that won't come off my face. He is probably the first guy who isn't giving me the BS of " I wasn't looking for a relationship, I don't know what I want" He is actually not scared of a relationship and it is what he hopes to progress to in his life.
Now onto the tough part. D9 figured it out. She knows I am dating him. Very difficult to hide, especially from super sleuth. I can get into the details of how she seriously backed me into a corner into admitting it, but it's long. It's a tricky situation that we all go to the gym together and talk and hang around and that she already sees him most days for a while now. I was not worried that she was going to be upset. I was worried she was going to be happy. And she is. But I had to explain to her that we just started dating and until I spend time with him alone and get to know him better, that all of us won't be doing things together. I told her when and if the time is right, I will let her know. She did understand. I did panic that I am the worst mom, called my friend this morning and she assured me I am not. There is no rule book, things happen, and the important thing is that I handle it right from here. Everyone who knows me a from here for a long time knows that she's met one guy and that is it. She happened to meet this one as a friend first.
There is my long-winded update. It's been a whirlwind, and quite an unexpected amazing one. I am staying grounded while still enjoying. I am not happy with myself that D9 found out, but I can only best from here on out.
And I will end with something funny. She said "Mom, isn't he in his 20's?" I said yes. She said "you are too old for him". Not, "he is too young for you"
