And when she left, you finally understood that she was unhappy and what she wanted you to do, but the only "warning" was her closing the door, and she no longer wanted you to do anything but leave her alone?
Yep. Pretty much. See, she'd say something once and always said that if it was important to me then that's all it needed to be said. But, excuses are excuses. She never fought for the marriage - or any of her past relationships. All she did was run when things didn't fit her perception of a fairy tale.
Out of the 10 years, there was only one time she stood up - and was over the sister. However, the sister "controls" her and says things to her that I would never imagine someone who supposedly loves someone would - but then again, her sister is narcissistic to the millionth degree...terrible person if she even thinks you are disagreeing with her.
When she left, I finally knew and realized things. After some revelations dealing with her abuse. And the major realizations didn't come about until we were on our second MCer.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
