And when she left, you finally understood that she was unhappy and what she wanted you to do, but the only "warning" was her closing the door, and she no longer wanted you to do anything but leave her alone?

M: 33, W: 30 @BD
M 7, T 10
BD: Early Dec
W left: Late Dec
W got stuff: Late Jan
W sent S papers: Mid Feb
OM cnfrmd: Late Feb

Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.