I wouldn't think so, but why wouldn't she tell me she was thinking about it, at the time? And why would she now lie and say that she wasn't thinking about it?
I'll give you what mine did, which pretty much follows the examples of others found here. Mine spent time talking to friends and family - I know this because of the hidden ally I have in her camp (things come out). Mine researched it. Looked it up...joined forums (the bitter divorce ones). When she dropped the bomb, she had her ducks in a row - or so she thought...she was going on what her family/friends told her. At any rate, the point is that she planned it out. They all do.
They do talk - just not in the way we expect them to. Mine never suggested marital problems or wanting/needing things to change.
It would be a safe bet that she has thought it out and gone over every possible scenario. That's why so many come out swingning...because they have their ducks in a row.
Decisions like divorce aren't taken lightly and most definitely aren't instantaneous.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
