When we all arrive at this community, we are hurting and we want to wake up from the nightmare we are experiencing to rid ourselves of the pain. More often than not, we discover that this is a marathon, not a sprint.
Take a deep breath and slow down. Unfortunately the only way to the other side of this he1l is through it. There are no shortcuts to speed up the process. Slow is fast and fast is slow. When we slow down and pay attention to the details, it helps speed up the process. When we rush, we skip details that we have to come back to later.
Work on detaching. You can do a search on livestrong developing detachment if you haven't already. I think there is a misconception that it means to give up. It doesn't.
One of the most important things you need to do, is keep busy with GAL activities.
I found Journaling to be very helpful to me.
Of course always keep in mind when interacting with your W, "is what I am about to say/do gonna get me closer or further away from my goal?"
One day at a time. Sometimes even one minute at a time.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
