So Confused and Conflicted

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Here's something else to ponder. When you gauge/temp check your WAS, it generates expectations and keeps you on the emotional roller coaster. We hang onto every word and action looking for a glimmer of hope. Keep your expectations at -0-. That will be a significant help.

Thanks for all the advice, LITB. Well put. I wanted to comment on this ^^^. My understanding from reading DR, is that you should be looking for small improvements to celebrate. It keeps you motivated to continue fighting for the marriage, when you see improvements, and it makes you patient, because you feel like your patience is being rewarded with the small improvements.