Well she called me again, I told her that I didn't want to talk to her, and I was at work. She said she wasn't done talking to me. I told her that she was at work, and whenever things get to heavy she says she cant talk about it, and hangs up, so I don't want to deal with that.
She said she could talk. She says that she understands that things got emotional with om1, and that she screwed up in talking to him yesterday. She said she understands why she needs to block his number. I said that was good she recognized it, but she still needs to do it. She said om1, is a dbag.
She said she called her mom, and her mom laid into her. She said that she cant take me loosing my cool in the mornings. I responded that I cant take her being with other men.
I asked about om2. She swears adamantly that om2 is truly just a friend. I asked her how did I know. She met him the same time as om1, and I didn't know about him for months. She said he just recently gave her his phone number through facebook. I said this is exactly what happened with om1. They started talking about personal stuff, and then an ea happened.
I said that I am fine with opposite sex friends, but they have to be friends of the marriage. The fact that she is calling him at 2 am, and deleting texts doesn't tell me he is a friend. She said that she needed a guys perspective on what was happening between us. I told her that she is crossing the emotional threshold again, which she denied.
She asked me if I wanted us to still be a thing, and I responded that I wanted a wife that didn't text other guys. I again said that there is a difference between secrecy, which is what she really wants, and privacy, which she claims she wants.
She then asked me if she was going to stay home, or if she would be staying somewhere else. I told her I didn't know.
I reminded her that she was the one on Saturday, that told me on Saturday that she would text me every hour, on the hour and didn't. She said that she told me to text her to remind her. I told her that trust is earned, and I am not her babysitter. I told her she needs to start turning towards the marriage if she wants it to work. She said that she is. She asked if this was because we haven't had sex since 12/28...I told her no, because I don't trust her, so I have no desire to have sex with her.
She starts claiming that she would never have sex with someone else, while she was married. I told her she has lied so much I don't believe her.
The call ended.
Me:33, WW:30 BD:12/14/16, EA no children Still together
