Maybe She Isn't Evil

[RDS]

These emails bring back happier days in our R, but I wonder if holding onto them is a good thing? Do we want to continue reading them and constantly remind ourselves of what our R used to be and is getting rid of them a part of "letting go"? I agree as it is also too soon for me to get rid of all our past communications, pictures, random mementos, and even our wedding pictures. All of these things my W declined to show interest in when she left so why do we hang onto them and for how long? When can we finally accept our future and let go of our past?

When to get of the stuff is the million dollar question. My wife and I rarely texted or emailed each other, until the last year or so when we were together. I think then we didn't want to talk to each other and texts were the easiest way to communicate without getting in each other's way. We used to enjoy talking to each other every day on the phone and when we were together. That changed drastically over the last few years. Before I changed jobs we communicated on my work phone almost extensively. I saved all the texts messages because I wanted proof of some of our discussions.

I did go back and read the texts from about 6 months before she left me and there were a few texts where we were friendly towards each other, but most of the texts from me where cold and angry. Her texts were not mean or spiteful. Mine were. I was not a fun person to communicate with.