OMG! You have received stellar feedback from everyone and I hope you are feeling a bit better. I felt compelled to chime in as I haven't been here in a while.
I agree with lots of being said here. You may overestimate someone's interest (I always assume that people aren't interested in me-different ball of wax). I am rather gregarious and it has caused people to think I was interested when I was not. I am always a bit surprised because *I" don't think that way. However, when I step back, I do understand why someone might get the wrong impression. I will not stop being friendly and you should approach people as well. Rejections stings like a bee ya know? But in the words of Kanye West, "That that don't kill me.. Can only make me stronger..." Enough on Kanye:)
And I do agree, that you should live your life. I mean, we are only going around once so you may as well enjoy it, right? I have a good friend who is single and 39. She wants to get married and have kids. She just started dating a man with kids and here is something she is struggling with at this time. She is having a difficult time with the fact that he only sees her every other weekend. He has primary custody of his 3 young kids and a very busy job that requires travel each week. And he lives an hour a way. And here is the deal...he may like her. He may even grow to love her. But getting the kind of his time that she wants may be super duper challenging. By all accounts, he seems like a great guy. He is just busy. She will have to decide whether or not she likes him "enough" to continue this new R, because his life is not changing anytime soon. It is what it is and IMHO, it's kind of on her as to whether to keep investing. If she goes, awesome. If she doesn't, no harm-no foul. But she shouldn't get upset that his life is very full because he is pretty transparent. This doesn't mean he isn't worthy of love or a R, but it may be more challenging for him to balance one right now.
What may seem different is that you too are busy. However, you are a little bit older without small kids. It does sound like you have some wonderful hobbies and that you are committed to pursuing those. And it sounds like you are at a stage where you are looking for a R that is a bit easier? We all have baggage and some wonderful poster (sorry-I don't recall who) said it is how we deal with said baggage which says a lot about us. My point is...Let's say I am a late 40s, early 50s woman and I think you are a great guy. If the activities are first priority, then I would wonder how serious you were about having a real R. I might think you are looking for companionship on your terms. Nothing wrong with that but it may be confusing to women. By all means, have fun and continue with hobbies. Just know that if that is the impression you give off, then it might be off putting to people looking for a serious R.
I hope that made sense. Happy Valentine's Day peeps! Love to you all.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
