I guess the most important rule of all to follow is to do whatever gets results, and not what doesn't.
The single most important thing to remember is that you are making any changes or whatever for you and you only. It seems that what you are doing it working, so keep it up. Funny how earlier she had complained you were distant, and now that is working your favor. Odd how that works.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.