I was talking about not being too available to her, though, like not answering the phone every time she calls. And not playing a pursue/distance game, if she tries to do that.
There is a fine line with that. Doing it too much can also have negative effects. Just be you. And own your road.
Yeah. Thanks for the reminder. Lately, it seems to be working, keeping my distance. Being distant was one of her main complaints, but I have chased the hell out of her since she first said she wasn't sure she wanted to be with me. I basically did all of the typical things that the DB literature says people do. So, she can't feel like I'm acting "more of the same". But you are so right that I have to be careful. I'm just monitoring my results. I guess the most important rule of all to follow is to do whatever gets results, and not what doesn't.
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.
