Who do you want to be? How would you change your life to be the person that you want to be? What can you do to change those things about yourself that you aren't particularly happy with? Your h is on his own separate journey at the moment and so are you. This is your time to figure out what you need to do to improve those areas that you aren't happy with. Are their hobbies, activities, etc., that you've put aside for years because of your h and family? Maybe it's time to think about the person you were before you met your h. Did you lose her along the way?
Be yourself, don't pretend that you are needy. If you need help w/something, ask him. If he turns you down, have Plan B in place and call that person for assistance. They can sense when we are playing games or trying to con them into doing something.
Valentine's Day is over rated. I would get a card or two and have the kids sign them and give them to him. I would have a spare card handy, just in case he gives you one...sometimes they'll give us cards and other times not.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
