Hi Karen - I'm sure there is a lot to process, with the loving, caring, honest feedback from Betsey. While you are at it, please also consider the fact that dbing takes a lot of REAL, INTERNAL change.
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It's so hard for me to DB!!! I am a horrible actress!

I don't think dbing is only about 'pretending'. It is understanding what is needed for the people, and the relationship at that time, and shelving the rest until a more appropriate time. But mostly, recognising that there is a reason we are in the current sitch, and that there are some things about ourselves that we need to change.

This is HARD. I too have felt like giving up at times, but in addition to the fact that I really love NG and do not want to live without him in my life, I was encouraged by the changes I saw in MYSELF. I think I am a much better person now, certainly I'm much happier with myself.

I hope you can stick with the process, and really focus on understanding what makes you do some of the less comfortable things. We are rooting for you, but as Betsey so eloquently put it, you need to be rooting for you too Slowly

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