2016, exposure is not to tell the OW that you know, because they won't listen to you and they won't believe you anyway but to expose her or him to others. Speaking to the OW doesn't work. I exposed OW to her parents and siblings, pastors and the president of the board where she was a member (she was kicked out), I exposed him to some of his friends, I shook their "reputation", bye bye secrets... it created consequences to them, they had to face how others where seeing them, it forced them out of their fantasy land. That's exposure. I created a crack who forced them to take a look at themselves.
Me 52+ WH 57+ Married 20 + Piecing since 2016 (ready to give up...)